Stop hurting

• Stop spending your time and energy being hurtful

• Stop spending your time and energy being hurt

• Stop hurting others

• Stop getting hurt

• Instead focus on the positive

As a software engineer we are trained and conditioned to test machines and find problems with other peoples programs and ideas. The first thing we do is to find a flaw and destroy their idea and confidence. Because as an engineer, being right is much more important than being nice. That is a lonely way to live life.

Instead focus on building up your arguments with positives rather than destroying other people's arguments. Instead focus on building up yourself and other people with positives rather than destroying yourself and other people with negatives.

Distance yourself from people and things that brings negativity into your life. I mean physically distance yourself by travelling somewhere else. It is funny how some distance can make everything seem small. If you do for some reason find that they are important, then go back with a better strategy, planning and attitude.

Stop feeding negativity with your time and energy. I found a lot people and coworkers of mine have figured this out as well. They just ignore and stay silent in the face of negativity because anything they say will just make the black hole stronger. Sometimes they just straight out walk out of the building.

Promise to myself, spend my time and energy more wisely. To spend my time on things in my life that makes it great instead of things in my life that makes it terrible. Because life is too short for all that negativity and it becomes more clear the older and wiser you are.